View Full Version : What do you do when .........

12-02-2012, 02:29 AM
What do you all do when your wife gets into a snit with your side of the family at a social gathering and you want to defend her.......but you feel she is wrong, even when the argument is petty and small.........how do you guys keep the peace and not let things escalate into WW3? It is worse when the car ride home 'discussions' dig up old crap that had nothing to do with the current situation.....

your thoughts?

12-02-2012, 05:17 AM
Oh that's easy. I stay single......

12-02-2012, 06:40 AM
In over 30 years I can't say I've ever had that problem. She might say "What the..." on the way home and I might laugh, which might make her mad, then I explain the other person's perspective, which she might consider loony, etc.
Eventually I might just change the subject to something like where she wants to go for vacation.

Dirty Bob
12-02-2012, 07:10 AM
Listen listen listen and try not to open your mouth....let things calm down first...and if you actually really want to talk about it wait until you are in private..don't call her out in front of others.. You might have to let it sit a few days or a week before you can rationally engage her to let her now your perspective.

In the heat of the moment I would most likely try to tell the parties in conflict that this is neither the time nor place to discuss whatever the issue is.

12-02-2012, 08:12 AM
I feel your pain. If the matter is petty and small, I would probably stand up for her, and then discuss it with her later. If you disagree with your wife v. your family in a matter of substance, you definitely want to have that discussion in private.

12-02-2012, 10:11 AM
I always run into that issue as well Wedge...I just usually jump in the conversation and derail that mofo ASAP...better your family think that you are a bit rude than them thinking your spouse is a raving ***** :p

12-02-2012, 10:59 AM
them thinking your spouse is a raving ***** :p

To late for that I am afraid, but they are not all there either! I am just trying to steer the ship through the mine field.......

12-02-2012, 11:26 AM
Oh that's easy. I stay single......

Hahaha! Same here. I've lived through some of those no-win situations in years gone by, and I am happy and relieved to say that they're behind me now.


12-02-2012, 01:38 PM
I reckon it doesn't matter what you do ........................ You're screwed either way! It is wrong to be put in that "No Win" situation IMHO!

12-02-2012, 01:49 PM
Get in the car & leave! Actually, Kim & I ALWAYS were cool we each others families, but we also didn't any completely crazy people (other than me) in either family. But....I would just leave. Like Mark said, you can't win either way.

12-02-2012, 02:28 PM
Step outside and go grab a smoke.:vroam:

12-02-2012, 06:11 PM

Repeat as needed...


12-02-2012, 07:30 PM
I have no experience in a situation like that.

Because it is impossible for my wife to ever be wrong about anything.

12-03-2012, 07:53 AM

12-03-2012, 08:28 AM
...you want to defend her.......but you feel she is wrong,

^^^^Mutually exclusive concepts. ^^^^

However it sounds like an in-laws related issue.

which reminds me of the old riddle....

"What is the difference between in-laws and outlaws?"

"Outlaws are wanted!"